Many people have the misconception that adopting a child as a single parent is more difficult than adopting as a couple. However, at present, the laws and regulations regarding adoption are very favourable for single parent adoption, whether that’s a single mother or a single father.
Recent studies have shown that as many as 25% of all adoptions are single parent adoptions. If you choose to adopt privately, then the birth parents will select the adoptive parents they want to place their child with themselves. Whilst you may think that being a single parent here gives you a disadvantage against couples, you’ll be glad to hear to that many birth parents don’t express a preference. Their primary concern is finding a suitable home for their child, whether that is with a single parent or a couple.
Things to Consider
Job and Childcare:
If you are considering becoming a single parent of an adoptive child, you are likely working full time in order to provide for them. Take some time to consider your options before you start the adoption process, ideally, your place of work will be lenient with working hours in case of an emergency.
The adoption process can also be disruptive to work, with social worker meetings, birth parent meetings and court dates. Many workplaces offer special leave for potential adoptive parents. Talk to your HR department to find out what options are available for you.
Adopting and raising a child can be a tough process, even for couples. Just because you are a single parent, that doesn’t mean you have to raise the child alone, it’s a good idea to form a support network. If you have close family and friends, they are likely to supportive and happy to help whenever they are needed.
You also have the option of paid help such as nannies, day-care providers and adoption therapists that will make the job of being a parent significantly easier.
As a parent, you need to think about what you will do or who will cover certain situations that may arise. Some of these situations to think about include:
- If your child is sick will you be able to take time off to look after them or will someone else be able to come over to look after them?
- Who lives close by and is available to provide help at short notice? It can be a good idea to get to know your neighbours well for this reason.
- Who do you trust to look after your child overnight? Situations may arise where you have to spend a night away from your child and you should be prepared for this.
- Who is available to collect your child from school in the event that you can’t get there in time?
Although adoption as a single parent may seem daunting, many single parents have successfully adopted a child and the number of single parents adopting children is only increasing. With the correct preparation and perseverance, the joy of bringing a child into your life and raising them outweighs any hard work that is required.